They all do it too!

Sex is a vital part of human's life and when it can't be practiced with somebody else, a good and easy way is doing it with one self. As Capote once said, “The good thing about masturbation is that you don't have to dress up for it”. Well, in fact, you have to dress down for it a bit, basically around the hot spots.

It is granted that all men masturbate, as much as possible, any time, any where, since the day they become sexually active, which usually begins at 11 or 12 y.o. Yeah, that's true! Besides, it is quite usual to talk about it among men, specially among friends. Some teenagers, even do it in company of friends while watching some porn. But, what about girls? They do too, I'm not so naive; but they deny it most of times.

While in Japan, I was astonished about the degree of such denial. No girl I asked virtually admitted to do it EVER in her life. But they seemed to be sexually very active, even if they used to claim not to have such drive in their lives. That was a contradiction, from my point of view. I learned with experience, however, that they had a slightlier different approach to sex wrt Western girls; a more indirect one. They used to care more about pleasing thant being pleased, in general. This way, they said, they couldn't reach an orgasm when doing it alone since it was 持っていない, that is, it had no use.

But what it seems is not what it really is, as most things in Japan. Despite it is true that some women can have long sexless periods in their lives (even couples, popularly called sexless couples), they do find relieve by themselves more often and more viciously than expected. Why then denying the obvious? Well, I guess this is another silly social constraint of the country. In fact, the younger, the more interested in being pleased than in pleasing.

In fact, most of girls in college (or even earlier) have a pretty crazy and casual sexual live, even more than western girls. Though this belongs to the 裏 (ura-backside) part of the Japanese life, sex has far less prejudices there than in apparently more open-minded Spain, also wrt Spanish girls, which still have an ingrained Catholic moral whispering behind their ears.